The best part of sex, in my far-from-humble opinion, is the pleasure you can cause in your partner(s).
While being stimulated by your partner is certainly far better (for most people, if their partner's any good at
it) than masturbation, it is still pretty much the same, only better.
Going down on a lover, on the other hand, allows you to get a kind of pleasure that you cannot give yourself, even
in part; the vicarious or empathic response you get from their reactions.
The techniques here, therefore, are centered around cunnilingus, including (since there's no separate name) using
your fingers. Along a similar line I've now written Advanced Fellatio Techniques and Secrets. This was learned
as a subject, not performer, but with the same quality of skill involved. Because of the number of questions I
received on the subject, I also have Advanced Anal Sex Techniques, for those who want to know about that.
Basic Guidelines:
"Less" is always the best way to start out if you don't know exactly what a specific person likes. It's
much safer to build up from "not enough" than to try to back down after shattering the mood by being too
rough. The final argument to ensure that you always apply this rule is this -- If you start out "too"
gentle/slowly, in most cases this just excites your lover more, even in the rare cases that it frustrates her
a little. But if you start out "too" rough for her, it almost always turns her off to the whole thing.
The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough -- no matter what you have
encountered so far, always assume that you have no idea what a new partner enjoys. It is entirely
possible to have had many lovers, and think
They are all pretty much the same or
You've learned all of the variations, and can tell who's what.
But this can be (and usually is) just a matter of random chance...you happened to get several similar lovers.
Eventually you will run into someone, or many people, who are completely different than those you've
known before.
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